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Dear Daddy,
It’s been awhile since we’ve chatted...too long, really. I know things aren’t the way I’d like them to be between us. For my part in that, I’m sorry. I never meant to choose between you and my mom. I never meant to hurt you. I never meant for there to be this divide. I am truly and whole heartedly sorry.
Life’s journey has taken me through some crazy adventures. I graduated from high school and went on the the Honors College on a full and well padded scholarship for undergrad. I graduated from the Honors College in 2006 with my BA in Liberal Arts, concentration in Latin American Studies, minors in Psychology and Spanish. I went on to grad school and got my MA in Rehabilitation and Mental Health Counseling. I worked for a year and a half as an in-home family therapist. I loved my job and really felt I was making an impact.
In October 2005 I met a wonderful man. He and I quickly started dating and fell in love. About 2 years later we became engaged. A year after that we got married on August 2, 2008. He and I have grown up a lot together and taught each other a lot of wonderful qualities. We really are very good for each other.
We both knew we wanted a family, so it wasn’t long before the discussions about kids started up. I was diagnosed with a type of hormonal imbalance when I was 16 which spelled difficulties for having kids. We knew our road might not be smooth so we saw a specialist to go over options. Ten months later our journey had succeeded.
Your grandson was born March 19. 2010. I hope you got the announcement. He was 8lbs 1oz and is amazingly perfect. He’s growing so fast. Each new day brings a smile to my face and joy to my heart. We hope to give him a sibling some day, but it’s hard to imagine loving another person as much as I love him. After considering all our options, we finally decided that I would quit my job and stay home to raise him. I absolutely love being home with him each day. My degree and career will be waiting for me when I'm ready.
So that’s our story in a nutshell. I know it’s been a good number of years since we’ve talked and there are a lot of emotions on both sides of this relationship. But life is too short and moving too fast. I know it won’t be easy, but maybe we could start emailing (cricketina@gmail.com) or talking? Let me know...I’ll be here.
So, I hope this letter finds you well and not too hot out there in Arizona. Hope to hear from you soon.
Love you,
Tina
It’s been awhile since we’ve chatted...too long, really. I know things aren’t the way I’d like them to be between us. For my part in that, I’m sorry. I never meant to choose between you and my mom. I never meant to hurt you. I never meant for there to be this divide. I am truly and whole heartedly sorry.
Life’s journey has taken me through some crazy adventures. I graduated from high school and went on the the Honors College on a full and well padded scholarship for undergrad. I graduated from the Honors College in 2006 with my BA in Liberal Arts, concentration in Latin American Studies, minors in Psychology and Spanish. I went on to grad school and got my MA in Rehabilitation and Mental Health Counseling. I worked for a year and a half as an in-home family therapist. I loved my job and really felt I was making an impact.
In October 2005 I met a wonderful man. He and I quickly started dating and fell in love. About 2 years later we became engaged. A year after that we got married on August 2, 2008. He and I have grown up a lot together and taught each other a lot of wonderful qualities. We really are very good for each other.
We both knew we wanted a family, so it wasn’t long before the discussions about kids started up. I was diagnosed with a type of hormonal imbalance when I was 16 which spelled difficulties for having kids. We knew our road might not be smooth so we saw a specialist to go over options. Ten months later our journey had succeeded.
Your grandson was born March 19. 2010. I hope you got the announcement. He was 8lbs 1oz and is amazingly perfect. He’s growing so fast. Each new day brings a smile to my face and joy to my heart. We hope to give him a sibling some day, but it’s hard to imagine loving another person as much as I love him. After considering all our options, we finally decided that I would quit my job and stay home to raise him. I absolutely love being home with him each day. My degree and career will be waiting for me when I'm ready.
So that’s our story in a nutshell. I know it’s been a good number of years since we’ve talked and there are a lot of emotions on both sides of this relationship. But life is too short and moving too fast. I know it won’t be easy, but maybe we could start emailing (cricketina@gmail.com) or talking? Let me know...I’ll be here.
So, I hope this letter finds you well and not too hot out there in Arizona. Hope to hear from you soon.
Love you,
Tina
3 comments:
How sweet and heartfelt. I hope he reaches out to you, and if not, I just feel like there's no way he could get that letter and not appreciate the gesture. You wrote it very lovingly, and you're doing what you can to repair the break.
You will have no regrets. If he chooses to ignore this he will. Youre a very kind and thoughtful person.
My dad and I began to speak again after 2 1/2 years just 2 months ago. My grandpa (his dad) was at the hospital in grave condition (an unexpected event really), and I had to rush to the hospital. I knew my dad would be their. It softened our hearts, and we began to talk at the hospital. While I keep some distance to avoid going back to where we were (we are both so stubborn! I get if from him!), I can say that my heart is healing from everything. My grandpa did pass a week later, and it brought my dad and I (and his 1 1/2 grandson he's never met) back together. I looked at it this way. God used my grandpa to bring us together. Through my grandpa's passing, it was the beginning of my dad as a grandpa himself. This is his first grandson.
I hope things go well. I've been there, and I know to some extent what you are going through. Your letter to your dad is a great start. It usually takes an "event" to bring people back to their senses, and I certainly hope that happens for you and your dad, for the sake of everyone involved. Hang in there!
Ashley
reynoldsmommy at gmail dot com
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