So we brought home our little bundle of joy from the hospital and reveled in the joy that he would actually sleep at night. For the first 2 months of his little life, he'd wake to be fed and changed and immediately go back to sleep. Then, for TWO WHOLE MONTHS, he slept through the night. Yes, that's right, all the way from bedtime (10pm or so) until at least 5am, sometimes as late as 9am.
But then...somewhere around 4.5 months...it was all over. Our precious little sleeper turned into a nighttime nightmare. We couldn't figure it out. Nothing changed. Maybe teething? Maybe he was getting too heavy for his bassinet thingy? Maybe pay backs for 4 months of great sleeping when he should have been killing me? He would sleep for a good few solid hours in the morning in bed with me and then in our bed after I got up. Nights that started with a dose of Tylenol and an amber necklace wrapped around his leg didn't go any better than nights without.
We decided to forgo the bassinet thingy and rig up his crib to be a giant co-sleeper. We took the front off the crib and pushed it up against our bed. The slight height difference meant he could get from our bed back into the crib but couldn't get from the crib into our bed...perfect! With a real mattress and closer proximity to me, we figured it'd go better.....But it didn't. In fact, it seemed to back fire. He was now spending progressively MORE time each night in bed with me. I'm all for co-sleeping (he was in our bed for the first month of his life), but I need the space to sleep myself. Kudos to you moms who can do it. I'm quite happy with close proximity. We got to the point where he was in bed with me, ATTACHED to me ALL NIGHT LONG! No bueno.
Then Squirmy got sick and I just kept him in bed with me all night for a few nights. It was just easier and more comforting to him. Again, attached all night long and snuggled close when he wasn't attached.
Now I'm back to trying to get him to sleep in his crib. Last night he'd wake up after an hour of being in his crib. I finally just brought him into bed with me out of desperation and exhaustion.
I'm at a loss. I don't know what to try next. Do I just forget about sleep and let him sleep with us and pray that he transitions to his crib eventually? (I know DH is going to start pushing for him to be in his crib, possibly in his own room at some point...just don't know when) Do I try putting the front back on the crib and leaving it pushed up to the bed so that he's still close, but doesn't have direct access to me? Do I put the crib back together and move it away from the bed?
We do have a bedtime routine, now. That has made bedtime a million times better, but the constant waking and wanting to nurse is driving me insane. And it's not full on nursing, it's the flutter nursing, the comfort/pacifier sucking. It feels wrong to let him cry if I can fix it, but yet I'd really like him to sleep independently.
Soooo....what do you suggest? I'm open to suggestions from any side (except the CIO camp). HELP!! and Thanks!